A September to Remember with Bee Jaiye (Relationship Matters)

Relationships are like shoes, don’t let the shine go.

 

Good news, W4 was a success, thanks to all who made it a duty to be part of it.

Well today we have BEE JAIYE in the house; our expert on relationship matters. Get ready as she takes the floor. Enjoy your time with her.

Hello peeps,

It’s been a while and I must say I’m glad to be here on yspot! again. And as you know, I’m here to do the usual *wink* to talk about relationship matters.

Today I will be talking about maintaining the shine of your relationships ‘cos relationships are like shoes and you shouldn’t let the shine go.

A friend of mine once told me that relationships are like a pair of shoes; once you’ve gotten the perfect pair, you’ll hold on to it forever, even if it’s got a few dents and scratches.

Generally after many months, maybe years, of being with one person, you tend to forget what brought you together. You forget what made you save up all that money and what made you ignore the other pairs of shoes that tried getting your attention, and buying just the pair you bought.

It’s a known fact by almost everyone who has ever been in a relationship that things get a bit stale after a while. She’s stopped going to the gym, he’s no longer on time; you both start to lose the ‘it’ factor. I call it the ‘it’ factor because it’s that “one thing” that made your better half pick you over all the other guys and girls in the first place. They didn’t just throw a pair of dice and select whoever tallied with the numeral that came up. You were a knowledgeable choice, chosen because of something. Some call it love, others call it compatibility, but there is a deciding factor that helps you determine if its love or not.

You get yourself a girl or boyfriend and all of a sudden you freely let go of the “va va voom” that made that girl or guy do a double-back and go “wow”. You’re getting fat, nagging too much, sloppy, saggy, distant and too comfortable; and yes there is such a thing as being too comfortable in a relationship despite the car he bought you or the fact that she cooks up a storm; you can take those things for granted and become comfortable with your partner.

Just like a pair of shoes, relationships need maintenance, upkeep, touch ups; a quick polish here and there to show you care and notice. If you’re the kind of man that buys flowers (pardon me, we’re in Nigeria) if you’re the kind of man that pays her BIS, why stop now? Although if that’s the reason why she’s with you, you might want to reconsider your relationship. If you always make him lunch every Wednesday and take it to his office, keep doing it.

I have an aunt who lost her husband two years ago; she still makes his favorite dish every Sunday. She might need some long overdue therapy, but you get my point. Whoever said that love is a battle field didn’t say that, so Jordan sparks could make a hit song out of it. It’s a fact. You have to fight to keep your man or woman from the claws of others…and believe me, there are people aiming for yours like a deer in hunting season. Your partner, no matter how much love there is remains a realistic being. If they don’t get what they’ve always needed from you, chances are they’ll go somewhere else to get it.

Take a look at the rate of divorce in recent times; it could happen to anyone. You have to pick up your game. Treat your man/ lady like you could lose them anytime. Now I never said anything about a tracking device or a private investigator, all I’m trying to pass across is you should love more than you loved yesterday, and the day before that.

Bee Jaiye!

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Thanks Bee Jaiye. A word they say is enough for the wise. It’s always a pleasure having you in the house. Looking forward to your next article *smiles*.

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Before we round this up, my friend Adaeze has this to add…….

The shine in relationships doesn’t just fade away. Pressure, a busy life style and familiarity contributes to it. Neglect also has a role to play in making the shine wane. You think you know your partner so well and no longer pay attention to this person’s needs, draining the life out of your relationship. Also keeping at the old routine, sets boredom on rampage.

Ways to keep the shine

-Give an ear to your partner

-Try out new things together

-Consciously try to bring a new experience to your relationship

-Constantly inspire each other

-Have time to review your relationship

-Help your partner re-discover themselves

-Do something consistently to bring you two together.

-Cheer them all the way as they walk and work towards the fulfillment of their dreams.

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Well-spoken sis……. Hmmm. So many things to take home *wink* and actualize. 

Thanks Bee Jaiye and Adaeze……

So folks, get to action and polish up your relationships, whatever kind it is, be it family, friend or lover. 


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